Fear & Uncertainty

What is caregiver fear and uncertainty?
What can I do about my fear and uncertainty?
When should I talk to my doctor about my fear and uncertainty?

What is caregiver fear and uncertainty?

Uncertainty is the inability to know what will happen in the future. Cancer and cancer treatment can be scary and unpredictable. Feelings of fear and uncertainty among caregivers are normal. But, they can become a problem if the caregiver feels he or she has no control over life, or is overly anxious, angry, depressed, or stressed as a result.

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What can I do about my fear and uncertainty?

Here are some tips:

• Don’t try to deny your fear. Talk about it with a friend or counselor.
• Try to avoid thinking about "what if's." Focus on the aspects of your life that you have control over.
• Try not to let your emotions and fears sway your decisions. Seek out the information you need to make good decisions. Ask a friend to help with the research.
• Talk to the patient’s healthcare provider about what to expect. Then prepare to the best of your abilities.
• Give your mind a break. Distract yourself with a book, a movie or a friendly conversation, or ask a friend to spend time with you doing something fun.
• Figure out what helps you manage stress, and do it.
• Find a support group.
• Write down a list of things you’re thankful for. Look at it when you’re feeling scared.
  

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When should I talk to my doctor about my fear and uncertainty?

Talk to your doctor if you have:

• Depression lasting two or more weeks
• Anxiety that gets in the way of daily activities
• Sleep problems
• Difficulty concentrating
  

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